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– Rukmini Iyer<\/em><\/p>\n

From the ancient philosopher Hermes to the modern film-maker Rhonda Byrne, several successful people have propounded that our thoughts are as important as our deeds. And that is because our thoughts are deeds in the making!<\/p>\n

As children we are exhorted by our parents and teachers to imbibe good habits. These habits are usually practical in nature, ranging from keeping our rooms clean to finishing homework on time to brushing twice a day. We are told that these habits have an impact on our personalities and on how socially acceptable we are. Since the repercussions of these habits are obvious on our social lives and physical health, we usually do not question their importance.<\/p>\n

But is that all there is to habits? For if it were only physical habits that were important, it would have been easy to create a society full of fairly disciplined, successful people. Here\u2019s where thoughts make their grand entry. Habits refer to pattern of behaviour acquired through frequent repetition. Behaviour could be physical or mental. Therefore, mental habits are as important as physical ones.<\/p>\n

For example, do you, before eating at a road-side joint, pray fervently that you should not get an upset stomach and end up with exactly that? Or do you dread that appraisal meeting with your boss so much that you have a splitting headache before it? If so, it\u2019s time to watch your mental habits.<\/p>\n

\u201cI realized I kept thinking and calculating about many small things and events, often unnecessary, and became very critical,\u201d confesses World Chess Federation rated player, coach and arbiter Hrishikesh Salvekar. His professional habits filtered into his thought process and he did not realize it for years, till it started affecting his social interactions. He explains, \u201cChess is an individual game directly related to using one\u2019s intellect. Even when there are team events, it is the individual performance that matters. So your ego tends to develop without your conscious knowledge.\u201d<\/p>\n

Similarly, a lot of us who are in professions or activities that place a premium on certain skills find that those skills tend to impact our lives, often in a negative manner. Mental habits formed for coping with one\u2019s profession such as strategizing, attention to detail, convincing people, etc. become so ingrained in our system that we tend to apply them in all spheres of life, whether they are relevant or not. And it is here that they can be detrimental.<\/p>\n

For they not only affect our social relationships, but also our health. A host of psychosomatic ailments including stress, high blood pressure, headaches, etc. are caused when a physical illness or weakness combines with unhealthy mental patterns. Every thought pattern has an impact on our bodily fluids and functions and negative patterns weaken the body so that it becomes more vulnerable to diseases. Here\u2019s a look at the effects of some of our mental habits on our organs, and the illnesses that we consequently expose ourselves to:<\/p>\n

Detrimental mental habits and probable impact on health<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
Mental habits<\/strong><\/td>\nArea of impact<\/strong><\/td>\nPossible ailments<\/strong><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Suppressing anger and emotions such as frustration, rage, etc.<\/td>\nLiver and kidneys<\/td>\nHyper-acidity<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Undue anxiety about performance and situations in life<\/td>\nHeart<\/td>\nStress, high blood pressure<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Excessive fear of things beyond one\u2019s control<\/td>\nJoints<\/td>\nArthritis, joint pain<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Feeling rejected and harbouring low self \u2013esteem<\/td>\nBrain<\/td>\nFever<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

It is important to note that ailments may be caused by purely physical reasons, too. But mental habits help them anchor to the body more easily. For example, the thought of fear instinctively makes us tighten our muscles and makes the joints stiff; this is a primordial reaction known to us since the Stone Age, when our body was the only means of our defence. Now, when we harbour fear for a long time, the body naturally goes into a stiff mode, and if coupled with a life-style that renders itself to joint-pains, leads to ailments such as chronic pains and arthritis. Simply put, unhealthy mental habits prepare a breeding ground in our body for illnesses.<\/p>\n

So it is possible to change mental habits? The answer is Yes! Here\u2019s how you can start:<\/p>\n

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Identify your mental habits<\/strong><\/p>\n

Observe your thought processes and reactions for a week and list the patterns that emerge. You may wish to enlist the perceptions of people that are close to you, in this process. Jagruti Gala, an educator who works with children in the area of holistic learning and conducts workshops on \u2018Habits of the Mind\u2019, shares her experience, \u201cMy mind resisted mundane work and ideas that I could not \u2018enjoy\u2019. But I realized that these activities are also crucial to take life forward and therefore I need to do them well.\u201d In her case, Gala ensured that she arrested her habit well before it caused stress.<\/p>\n

Chart a course of action<\/strong><\/p>\n

Once you have identified the mental habits that you wish to change, decide what you would wish to replace the negative habits with. And yes, it is possible to do this at any stage in life. \u201cHealthy habits of the mind are very crucial to develop \u2013 they are the aim of all learning, the ultimate outcome. The earlier we start the better,\u201d asserts Gala.<\/p>\n

For example, if you have a habit of being critical about people, attempt to replace it with empathy. The next time a subordinate presents a report that you think is below par, instead of voicing your criticism, offer help. Ask him\/her what inputs from your side could help the person do better. In this manner, you become more solution-oriented and constructive.<\/p>\n

Set targets<\/strong><\/p>\n

It is a proven psychological truth that any behaviour practised for 21 days at a stretch becomes a habit. Set target dates and identify potential situations where you can demonstrate your new mental habits. Make it a point to journal those situations and your response to them. Do not lose heart if it is difficult to change your reflexes early on. Slowly, as the success stories in your journal increase, you will realize that Nike is true, after all \u2013 Impossible is nothing!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Tips and tricks<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI discovered that being focussed on the present moment without having the mind wander into the past or the future breaks its habit of generating useless thoughts. This helps to calm and focus the mind and my creativity, peace and positivity increases,\u201d shares Gala.<\/p>\n

Productive mental habits<\/strong><\/p>\n